There’s a lot at risk when it comes to getting divorced. Let’s face it, the stakes are high, and there’s a lot to be concerned about. Because of this, there are a lot of errors to be made when it comes to the divorce process.
It’s not uncommon for people to make terrible mistakes during divorce that affect them for years down the road. To help you through the process, here’s a list of some of the most serious mistakes you should look out for at all costs.
Not Paying Child Support
If you’re the parent who is expected to pay child support and you don’t want to pay it, the answer is not avoiding paying it. If you want to stop child support, you’ll need to fight it in a court of law. Legally you are required to pay child support, and if you default on a payment, you can get into serious trouble with the law. Don’t stop paying child support under any circumstances.
Talking Badly About The Other Parent In Front Of The Kids
Disrespecting the other parent in any way regardless of how right you are is not OK. It creates confusion in your children and makes them feel like they need to choose between you. When you say negative things about the other parent, your child starts to feel like they have to agree with you.
They may start thinking that something’s wrong with themselves or the other parent if you start putting down their mom or dad. Remember, they are not expected to fight your battles. Just because you’re angry with your ex doesn’t mean that they need to be too.
Not Being Honest With The Kids
In an attempt to protect their children, some parents keep the kids uninformed about what’s going on. Rather than trying to dance around the truth, you’re better off keeping things straight with your kids. Tell them exactly what’s happening as clearly as you can.
The fact of the matter is that mommy and daddy are no longer going to be together anymore. You’re going to have to tell them whether you like it or not. The sooner you help them understand, the sooner they can start to move towards healing. The longer you wait, the more that you’re stunting their healing process.
Not Getting a Lawyer
It’s important that you consult with an attorney before making any decisions. Don’t make the mistake of taking legal advice from your friends. A professional lawyer is the only person that you should base your decisions on since not all divorces are the same. Each case is different, and only a lawyer will know the best route to take.